On Wed, Dec 11, 2024 at 5:56 AM Alain D D Williams addw@phcomp.co.uk wrote:
I am, however, concerned that recent list traffic has largely moved away from "Eco-Conscious Computing" and dealt with Luke's personal problems and the abuses that he seems to think that others are doing to him.
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I believe that Luke's antipathy towards me is a result of me asking repayment of a loan that I had given to him to tide him over until he received payment from NLnet. He was paid by NLnet but refused to repay the loan.
Ahhh yes. Luke's famous temper.
Luke, Alain was simply bringing up the matter as a concern, as anyone would normally do. I'd've done the same, if the debt were owed to me. It's a thing people do when that happens, and stuff comes up about that later. If I may respectfully submit, now is neither the time nor the place for another feud. You yourself know how much damage has been done to you already. Turning yet another friend into an enemy -- and I can tell Alain cares about you still and wants to remain your friend, at least for now -- over yet another perceived wrong, is not something you want to do right now. You need to focus on your healing. You can work things out with Alain later.
Speaking from experience as a fellow "Aspy" -- someone with Asperger's Syndrome -- sometimes emotion really does get the better of us. It's hard not to dwell on those things. It's hard not to be frustrated, even angry -- even to fell full-on *betrayed* -- and often at the worst of times. It makes us do some really really dumb stuff. I know I'm guilty of that. I have a LOT of regrets, and a lot of them were because I couldn't just make myself let go of this or that, I had to confront it, and my "angy words" got the better of me when I did. Make like a Disney flick and "let it go" -- at least till you're proper healed up, OK?
Or, if you prefer -- down boy, down. Stay. Be nice. Heal! ...and *then* you'll get the doggie treat. ( :P )
Also, sorry I've not been posting. I've been shuffled off to the hospital myself. I got back only 18hrs ago and I am EXHAUSTED -- but I have Adulting Things to do before I can sleep. Unfortunately, all I had with me was my phone, and bottom-posting in GMail Mobile on a smartphone is infuriating at best... so I waited. Luke, I wish you a safe and (all things being relative) speedy-for-what-it-is recovery, and I hope in the meantime you will be granted the wisdom and ability to focus on getting better, and, again, with all due respect, to let this new episode of Family Feud wait till Steve Harvey comes by later ;3
Alain, thank you for sharing your concerns with us. We all care about Luke, I think... well, unless and until he burns that bridge. Part of me wishes he didn't have quite the talent he seems to have for that... or at least, that he had less of a penchant for using it.